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Five Things to Consider For a Happier Life 1.) You are really and truly the only - yes, only -darn person you can control. There's no question that you can affect others, you can, and you should. But change them? Nope, not in this lifetime, not on this spiritual plane. That doesn't mean that we all can sit by and say "ho hum, well, then, there's nothing I can or should do except do my own thing." That's a cop out. What it DOES mean is that trying to control others is futile and crazy-making at best, and a recipe for unmitigated disaster in many, many circumstances. Once you really come to terms with this, every day gets easier. Make peace with this one quickly. 2.) Nobody gets a free ride. Yes, I know that's an old chestnut, 3.) We are never, ever given just one chance at happiness or fulfillment. It is easy, (and I think it's perhaps human nature) to believe that our entire future happiness and good outcomes in life can hinge on a particular thing, such as "this particular relationship working out," or "getting into this school," or "getting this job" or "making x number of dollars." Again, that's not a cop-out inducer to believe that you don't have to do the best you can in life, you will find yourself far more fulfilled if you DO. However, it is certainly a relaxing-inducing knowledge, once you can find it, that there are ALWAYS going to be other deep, soul-level, meaningful opportunities for us, if the one in front of us, for whatever reason, does not come to fruition. To believe otherwise is to limit yourself, the universe, and your higher power, (if you believe in one) to a level that is really, when you think about it, not only painful but also pretty arrogant. Work this one out, and things become a lot easier. Really. 4.) Listen to others (who have shown they're worth respect) but go your own way. Both bits of this one are challenging. For instance, your mother, just by virtue of being your mother, if you are an adult, does not, in and of itself, make her opinion very useful or helpful to you - particularly about things that she herself has never experienced. There's a fairly obscure saying, though, that goes something like this: "If one person tells you you have a tail, you can laugh. If two people tell you you have a tail, then best turn around and LOOK." In other words, of course, it's not smart to just ignore every bit of advice/opinion you are given, particularly if you start to hear things over and over. However, ultimately you have to live your own life and it's the only one you have at this moment anyway. If you decide that what your soul is telling you to do is to move to Italy and learn Italian (with the last $1,000 in your checking account...) and you are sure that this is what you most want and need to do, then GO, regardless of what anyone says. Hey, it worked out well for Elizabeth Gilbert (author of "Eat, Pray, Love".) If you wait till what you want is going to please everyone you might as well forget it. Life is short, and people who are completely invested in completely pleasing everyone are usually pretty darn unhappy. 5.) It's your job to take care of yourself. Yes, some conservative types who meander into this article might be surprised to hear a liberal type like myself spout this last one, but it is my firm belief that in today's world (and perhaps always, I don't know) in order to be happy and successful we have all got to take personal responsibility for our own lives, advocate for ourselves, and not simply sit by and expect someone to come along and fix (any) problem. This also means that after a certain point, you can no longer blame your parents or the Government or whatever for your problems, you will have to make some choices and take some actions, and so on. If you struggle with this one, it might be helpful to start by thinking, say, of going to a doctor's office (ick!) If your leg hurts, and you go to the doctor but don't tell her that your leg hurts, how can you possibly be surprised if she doesn't do anything about your pain? Learn to advocate for yourself. You are the one who is closest to knowing what you need. You can have a hand in making sure your needs get met. If you wait by the side of life for someone to notice that you are in pain/need help/etc., you can be waiting a very long time indeed. Deborah Hancock is a writer and an intuitive spiritual advisor with clients all over the world. She blogs at http://www.manicmeltdown.com, among other places. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Deborah_Hancockhttp://EzineArticles.com/?Five-Things-to-Consider-For-a-Happier-Life&id=3194398 |
but it may take some doing to really absorb the fact. I still remember the moment when someone (a man who taught me a number of extremely painful yet important lessons) said to me in surprise when we were on the topic: "EVERYONE suffers. EVERYONE 'gets screwed.' Nobody escapes it. Nobody has a charmed life." It took until then (and I was well over 20) for me to realize that my suffering was not "special," or anything of the sort, and that everyone else (or even a few select lucky bastards) was/is not living a constantly easy, happy, stress-free existence. Problems are part of life. Learn to see that this is okay.
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Dealing With a Demanding Boss When you are working within a large organization, you may carry a lot of expectations and a lot of hard work may be expected out of you by a demanding boss. Being unable to perform up to the mark may lead to the boss showing signs of anger and frustration and this may lead to a creeping nervousness amongst the employees and a declining drive to achieve the assigned targets within the stipulated time. There are some bosses who may never be satisfied while looking for high productivity and correspondingly inflated bottom lines.  When a particular task is assigned to you and you are unable to complete it, the boss may not like to hear any excuses due to the excessive pressures of performing under tight deadlines. He may always want high productivity consistently. Working with a demanding boss is also a great learning experience and it gives you an insight into the temperament of a demanding boss that may prove beneficial to you in the long-run. There are times when we grumble at the comments passed by a demanding boss but this in itself should be taken as a great learning experience - learning to live with an uneasy boss. When we work with a demanding boss, he may not like to delve into details while keeping his focus on the final results and the bottom line to see if the results are desirable or not. The common belief is that it is a bad idea to annoy a demanding boss who hardly understands and is always bent on criticizing his subordinates. In essence, bosses are not worried that you made a mistake; rather, the focus of their criticism is your attitude or way of doing things. Employees should not take the criticism personally. The reasons why a boss gets upset when we do not complete an assigned task and waste precious time frolicking around in the office or taking unnecessarily long breaks for lunch stretching into hour on end. All that a boss may want is for the employees to work efficiently and be spontaneous in work. If you have any specific problem it is advisable to discuss it with your boss as it is also in his interest that a suitable solution to the problem is found. Resolution of such issues may lead to frustration, and a subsequent lack of interest in the work. If we find a proper solution or ideas to resolve the interpersonal problems, it can lead the boss to trust you and give you charge to take up rest of the responsibilities in the organization. He can be demanding at times but you have to see the underlying reason and subsequently evaluate the situation after getting the facts right. In a nutshell, if you are tactful and honest you can easily handle a demanding boss, contribute to the organization and still have a wonderful experience at the workplace. Andrew James offers a no cost video showing you step-by-step how to overcome negative thinking patterns. Please visit http://www.stopthenegativewaves.com. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Andrew_James_Bradley
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